Last updated: 6 April 2026
Most people assume a funeral reading must come from a religious text—but the most meaningful funerals I’ve watched at The Teal Farm have been the ones where a family chose words that actually reflected how their loved one lived. Non-religious funeral readings can be just as moving, personal, and dignified as any traditional ceremony. The difference is that they come from poetry, literature, philosophy, or the person’s own beliefs—and that often makes them feel more true to the person being remembered. If you’re planning a funeral without religious elements, you’re probably wondering where to start, what readings work best, and how to weave them into a service that feels right. This guide walks you through the whole process, with practical examples and honest advice from someone who’s supported dozens of Washington families through this choice.
Key Takeaways
- Non-religious funeral readings can include poetry, literature, philosophy, personal essays, or words written specifically for the person being remembered.
- The best readings reflect the person’s values, passions, or sense of humour—not what tradition says should be read.
- You don’t need religious content to create a dignified, moving funeral service; secular readings can be every bit as powerful.
- Many families in Washington find that pub wakes allow the right atmosphere for readings—informal enough for personal tributes, respectful enough for quiet reflection.
Why Non-Religious Readings Matter
Over fifteen years of hosting wakes and celebrations of life in Washington, I’ve noticed something consistent: the funerals that stay with people aren’t the ones that follow a script. They’re the ones where someone stands up and reads something that makes everyone in the room think, “Yes. That was exactly who they were.”
A non-religious reading works because it gives you permission to be honest. If your loved one didn’t believe in God, didn’t follow any faith tradition, or simply lived by their own values and philosophy, then a reading from a sacred text can feel like an uncomfortable fit—even if it’s beautifully written. The right secular reading does what a good funeral should do: it captures something true about the person, gives people permission to feel what they’re feeling, and reminds them why this person mattered.
I’ve seen families read poetry by Maya Angelou, passages from Cormac McCarthy novels, lines from favourite films, and words they’d written themselves. Every single one of them worked because they were chosen with care and because they meant something to the person being remembered. That authenticity is what makes a reading resonate—far more than which book it comes from.
Where to Find Meaningful Non-Religious Readings
The good news is that there are thousands of secular readings available. The challenge isn’t finding something—it’s finding the right something. Here’s where most families start:
Poetry Collections and Famous Poets
Poetry is the obvious place to look, and for good reason. Most secular funeral readings are poems because poets know how to say complicated things about loss, memory, and what it means to be human. You don’t need to understand every line—you just need to feel it.
Some of the most-read poems at UK funerals include work by Dylan Thomas, Maya Angelou, and Rainer Maria Rilke—poets who write about grief, living fully, and the cycle of life. Look for poems with themes like celebration of life, continuity, memory, or letting go. If the person loved nature, find nature poetry. If they were funny, look for humorous verses. The match matters more than the fame of the poet.
Literature and Prose
Some families choose passages from novels, memoirs, or essays their loved one adored. A line from a favourite book can be even more personal than a poem, because it’s tied to something the person actually read and returned to. Well-known passages from literature work well—Tolkien, Dickens, contemporary authors—as long as they feel connected to who that person was.
Philosophical Writings and Essays
If your loved one was someone who thought deeply about life, meaning, or ethics, philosophical texts can provide readings that feel authentic. Stoic philosophers like Seneca or Marcus Aurelius have passages about mortality and living well. Modern philosophers and essayists often write about what makes life meaningful—and those words can be just right for a funeral.
Online Funeral Resources
There are websites dedicated specifically to funeral readings. Some are run by funeral directors and include curated collections of secular readings. Others are community-based—families share readings they’ve used, with brief explanations of why they chose them. These can be incredibly helpful because you get the reading and context about how it landed with people.
Personal Sources
Don’t overlook your own life. Some of the most powerful funeral readings are words the person themselves wrote—in letters, diaries, emails, or even social media posts. If your loved one left behind their own words about what mattered to them, those words have unmatched power in a funeral setting. A passage from a letter they wrote, or something they posted that captures their philosophy—that’s a reading nobody else could give.
Types of Secular Readings That Work
Understanding what kinds of readings work best in a funeral setting helps narrow your search. Here are the main types:
Celebration and Life-Affirming Readings
These readings focus on the joy of being alive, the value of lived experience, and the importance of making the most of time. They don’t ignore death, but they don’t dwell on it either. Instead, they celebrate the fact that the person was here, mattered, and lived fully. Mary Oliver’s “The Journey” and Langston Hughes’s “Harlem” are examples—they’re about moving forward and claiming your own life.
Reflections on Memory and Continuity
Other readings acknowledge that while the person is gone, they remain in memory, in the people they influenced, and in the difference they made. These readings offer comfort without false promises of an afterlife. They recognise that a person’s impact continues through the people who knew them.
Honest, Unflinching Readings About Mortality
Some families want a reading that doesn’t look away from the fact of death—that treats it as natural, necessary, and part of life. These readings can feel brave and grounding. They work especially well for people who valued honesty and didn’t believe in softening hard truths.
Humorous or Light Readings
If your loved one had a strong sense of humour, a funny reading can work beautifully in a funeral setting. It gives people permission to smile, to remember the person as they were (often funny, often full of life), and to feel a bit lighter during a sad day. Some famous funny writers like Terry Pratchett or Roald Dahl have passages that can work here.
Personal Tributes and Letters
Sometimes the best reading isn’t published work at all—it’s a letter written by a family member, a tribute from a friend, or words the person themselves wrote. These readings anchor the funeral in actual relationship and real emotion rather than in universal themes.
How to Choose the Right Reading for Your Loved One
With so many options available, how do you narrow it down? Start with what you know about the person.
Think About Who They Were
What did they care about? What made them laugh? What did they talk about, read, watch, or believe in? The reading should reflect something true about their life and values. If they were an outdoors person, find a reading about nature. If they were intellectual, find something thoughtful. If they valued friendship, find a reading about human connection. The match between the reading and the person is what makes it feel right.
Consider the Tone You Want to Set
Are you planning a solemn, reflective funeral? A warm, celebratory one? A mix of both? The tone of the reading should fit the overall feel of the service. A quiet, meditative reading works for a small, reflective gathering. A more energetic or defiant reading can energise a larger celebration of life.
Test It Out Loud
Read the words aloud before you commit. Does the language feel natural? Are there words you’re unsure how to pronounce? Does the passage feel too long or too short? Does it make you cry, or does it feel distant? Your gut reaction matters. If you feel moved by it, other people probably will too.
When you’re planning a funeral in Washington, wake venues in washington often have quiet spaces where you can read passages aloud and get a feel for how they sound in the actual space. The Teal Farm, for instance, has a calm back room where families sometimes sit with funeral directors or celebrants to work through readings before the day itself.
Length Matters
Most funeral readings should last between 2 and 5 minutes when read aloud. That’s long enough to create real impact but short enough to hold people’s attention and maintain emotional intensity. If you’ve chosen something longer, it’s often better to read an excerpt rather than the whole piece. Ask yourself: if I read this aloud, will people listen the whole way, or will they start to tune out? Cut it to the most powerful part.
Delivering a Reading at a Secular Funeral
Choosing the right reading is half the work. Delivering it well is the other half.
Who Should Read It?
Ideally, the reading is delivered by someone who has a connection to either the person being remembered or to the reading itself. If the person wrote the reading, or if it’s their favourite passage, maybe a family member or close friend should read it. If it’s a poem chosen by the family, it could be read by anyone who feels comfortable—sometimes that’s a celebrant or funeral director, sometimes it’s a family member.
What matters is that the reader feels steady enough to deliver the words clearly. Grief is real, and tears are welcome in a funeral setting—but the reading itself should be clear and measured so people can actually hear the words.
Preparation and Practice
If you’re reading, practice aloud several times before the day. Note where you might pause for breath or for effect. Mark any words you’re unsure about and check the pronunciation. The more familiar the words feel in your mouth, the more naturally you’ll deliver them.
It’s also worth thinking about where you’ll be standing or sitting when you read. Will you be at a podium? At a table? Will you be near people or further away? The physical setup changes how you’ll need to project your voice and maintain composure.
What If You Get Emotional?
It’s okay to get emotional while reading. Take a breath, pause if you need to, and keep going. People watching you will understand that you’re grieving. If you start to lose it completely, that’s okay too—someone can step in and finish reading, or you can step away. There’s no “right” way to deliver a reading while grieving. Authentic is what matters.
Creating Your Own Readings and Tributes
Sometimes the perfect reading doesn’t exist—so you write it yourself.
Writing a Personal Tribute
A personal tribute is often better than any published work because it’s specific to your loved one. You might write about a memory that shows who they were, a lesson they taught you, or something they said that stuck with you. The best tributes are concrete—they include real details, specific moments, and actual words the person said. Generic observations don’t land the way real stories do.
Your tribute doesn’t need to be long or perfectly written. It just needs to be true. If you’re worried about your writing, read it to someone you trust and ask if it captures the person. Often, a simple, honest tribute from someone who loved them beats polished published poetry.
Combining Personal and Published Readings
Some families do both: a published poem or passage, plus a personal reading or tribute. This combination works well because the published work provides a moment of universal reflection, while the personal reading grounds everything in actual relationship. At celebration of life washington events, we often see this structure work beautifully—a celebrant reads a chosen poem, then a family member reads a memory, and the balance between the universal and the specific creates real depth.
Collaborative Readings
If multiple family members want to participate, you could have different people read different sections of a longer piece, or each person could read a short passage they’ve chosen. This spreads the emotional load and gives more people a chance to participate in honouring the person.
When you’re working through the first 24 hours after a death, it can feel overwhelming to think about readings. But giving yourself permission to choose words that actually reflect your loved one’s life—rather than defaulting to what you think you should do—often brings real clarity and peace to the planning process.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can you have a funeral without any readings at all?
Yes, absolutely. Some families choose silent reflection, live music, or simply sharing memories spoken without prepared text. There’s no rule that says you must have readings. If readings don’t feel right for your loved one or your family, skip them. A funeral should honour the person and comfort the people left behind—that can happen in many different ways.
What’s the best length for a funeral reading?
Two to five minutes is ideal. Read aloud, this gives you roughly 250 to 650 words depending on your reading pace. Long enough to make an impact, short enough to hold attention and emotional intensity. If you’ve found a longer piece you love, choose the most powerful section rather than reading the whole thing.
Where can I find secular funeral readings online?
Search for “secular funeral readings UK” or “non-religious funeral poems.” Sites like Poetry Foundation, ThinkExist, and Goodreads have collections. Many funeral director websites also include curated lists. Libraries often have poetry collections organised by theme. If you’re working with a celebrant, they’ll usually have extensive resources and can recommend readings based on your loved one’s personality.
Is it appropriate to read something funny at a funeral?
Completely appropriate—if it matched your loved one. Humour was part of who they were; a funny reading gives people permission to smile and remember them as they actually were. The key is that the humour should feel connected to the person, not like you’re trying to lighten the mood artificially. A reading that would have made them laugh often resonates deeply with people who knew them.
Can family members write and read their own tributes instead of using published readings?
Yes, and often those are the most powerful readings of all. A personal tribute—a memory, a lesson, something they taught you—delivered by someone who loved them carries enormous weight. It doesn’t need to be polished or perfectly written. Honest and specific beats eloquent every time. Write from the heart, practise reading it aloud a few times, and trust that your words will matter.
Planning a non-religious funeral or celebration of life in Washington?
The Teal Farm in Washington NE38 provides a warm, dignified setting for wakes and celebrations of life where families can share readings, memories, and tributes in an atmosphere that feels genuine. Step-free access, free parking, dog friendly. Minutes from Birtley and Sunderland crematoriums. We can often accommodate at 48 hours notice—something many families appreciate when they’re in the thick of bereavement.
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